Hate to add more negative to what you've already heard, but quite simply, don't do it.
You will find almost universally, the rule of thumb, is never tow more than 75% of your vehicle's rated max tow. Rather than go by any certain weight as your "buffer" just never go too far from the 75% rule and you can never go wrong.
So for your Jeep, you are way beyond the 75% just with the dry weight of that trailer.
And, as you're hearing, the weight of the trailer creeps up and up from "dry weight" quite easily.
Besides all obvious safety reasons for not exceeding safe towing capacities, there's the wear and tear on the towing vehicle that will kill a good vehicle. I speak from experience, years ago, I destroyed two vehicles in a short period of time by pushing their two capacity before I figured out and admitted what I was doing.